Tuesday, 3 June 2014

Stepping Stones

May 2009 sees us as a family begin the Positive Parenting Programme, taking steps towards managing children’s behaviour. It was a very good programme which we all benefited from and our mentor/facilitator gave us excellent support and guidance and it was through her that we first considered the option of moving Ryan to a different school.

Ryan had another major meltdown in school because he had chipped his front tooth the night before in the bath and wanted to go to the dentist but couldn’t understand why he had to wait two days for the appointment. He expects his feelings to be met and catered for but doesn’t accept or even comprehend that anybody else has feelings in return.  I used to find this so hard to deal with. 

He said to me when he goes to places that has lots of people he “Feels like a flower going home”. When I asked him what that meant. He said (quite calmly and as if I was thick and surely must have known what he meant) “Like a flower; going back down into the ground and becoming a seed again.”

Ryan was then excluded again from school 2 days later for another violent meltdown (has any one counted exclusions yet?).  Although another parent rang me to say her son had gone home that day and told her that the class teacher had said to the whole class “You had better start behaving or you’ll turn out like Ryan”.  
A formal complaint swiftly followed and Ryan was removed from the class permanently and ‘moved up to year 3 early’. 

So which parenting style are you? – Be honest now.

Angry Bull – Do as I say or else! Be cruel to be kind. If kids see any weakness, they take advantage.


Relaxed Rabbit – Chilled out. I like my kids to be free spirits. They’ll grow out of it. Can’t be bothered.


Cowering Cat – Why doesn’t anyone listen to me? They don’t appreciated me after all the sacrifices I’ve made.


Wise Owl – Ok let’s talk about this. How can we make sure you are safe? I need time to think about this. Praise and encourages. 


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