Saturday, 19 July 2014


Photograblog for

By Ryan

I like photos. Well the detail and how realistic you can get them. Instead of going out and looking at them yourself you can easily just find them, but doing photography you do that yourself.

In a good picture I look for detail and how good it looks, which comes under detail actually, lighting, depth, what’s in the background, what’s the main focus of the picture that type of stuff.

Western Australia

Possibly my autism has helped me to see the detail in making a good photograph. I looked at it a bit more. I can see deeper into the picture. I get the meaning of it. I can see why somebody took it either for the beauty of it or just for fun maybe.

Just for fun

With my photography I am not having to interact with people or do the social thing that I find difficult. It’s a project I can do by myself in my own time.  My photos don’t involve people. I prefer wildlife and landscape photography instead.

I don’t take photos of animals even though I like them because well finding the animals is actually the problem not actually taking the picture of them. You've got to go out and find the animal you are wanting to take the photo of, which could take a long time, especially since most insects and other bug type creatures are quite sensitive and they don’t like to be around things that are significantly larger than them and they generally move off if you come too close.

I don’t take pictures of buildings either because you could easily make that anywhere. It’s man made so you can just make it and make it and make it, but with nature it’s always changing, it will never really be the same and I want to capture that moment. That is sort of what a picture is. Well taking a picture is just taking a moment of time and keeping there.

I have only been taking photos for about a year since I got my Galaxy Note phone.  I have looked at a lot of photos in my time on Google images (other search engines are available) but I kept on thinking to myself could I make that picture better or could I just take that picture, do I have the skills to do it? So I started trying photography and I was okay at it, I was pretty good. I developed my skills.  I haven’t taken classes I have just self taught photography. You know it’s not that hard you sort of pick up on the skills.

Depending on what’s in the photo depends on the quality of the photo.  Taking a good photo depends on the field of depth, how far can you see, how much detail do you get out of the photo?  Lighting is quite important a dark photo you can’t really see anything but with a light photo you can see lots of things it just makes the photo look better in general. You don’t want too much sun. Too much then it goes a bit out of focus so you can’t really see as much. You need like an average between dark and light.  

Shadows do help because you don’t get as much flare from the sun like lens flare when it is shining too brightly, like when you flash a torch and you look in to it and can see a lot of the torch even though it’s just a tiny little surface area. Those can be quite annoying in some photos but it does make it a bit more realistic but I don’t prefer them in my photos.

Lens flare.
These are my favourite photos, to see my others on Pinterest click here.

Saturday, 12 July 2014

Asperger Syndrome

All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome

Book Worms

In my previous post ‘Everybody is Different’ I mentioned a really good book of the same name that I have.  I am quite a book worm and one of those people that enjoys learning and expanding my own knowledge so when I discovered Ryan was Autistic I set about learning as much as I could about the subject so that I could better support him over the years.  

Everybody is Different, Autism Awareness

List of Recommended Reading

What follows now is a list of the books I have read and some I haven’t but are on my wish list.  There is a myriad of books out there and this is a relatively short list as a lot of my reading material comes from websites but I have really enjoyed these so wanted to share them on our blog with our readers and followers.

  • Make School Make Sense
  • The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time
  • Help your Child Succeed at School
  • All Cats Have Aspergers
  • Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments
  • Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence
  • Asperger Syndrome, the Universe and Everything
  • Social Stories
  • Incredible 5 point Scale

On my wish list

The Asperger Adventure Series
        Blue Bottle Mystery
        Of Mice and Aliens
        Lisa & the Lacemaker

If any of you have read these three then I would be very interested in book reports please in the comments section.

I would have to say that my two most favourite authors on the subject of Aspergers and Autism would have to be Brenda Myles and Dr Temple Grandin. I would seriously recommend anything and all they have contributed to.

All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome

Ryan has kindly made a video of himself reading you All Cats have Asperger Syndrome. Enjoy . 

Further Reading

A recommended list of further reading can also be found here:

Saturday, 5 July 2014

Everybody is Different

Since starting this blog I have wanted to talk about my eldest son Owen, but have not known how to go about starting a post about him. As a big believer in fate the perfect catalyst presented itself to me earlier this week and delivered me the perfect post.  

Before I present that post I just want to give a bit of background to a tale of two boys.  Two boys that do NOT get along.  We all know siblings fight but our house on occasion has been utterly heartbreaking with the level of dislike and resentment that Owen has for his Autistic brother.

Soon after Ryan’s diagnosis I purchased a book titled ‘Everybody is Different. A book for young people who have brothers or sisters with Autism’ by Fiona Bleach. I brought this book for Owen in an attempt for him to better understand the difficulties that Ryan faces.  It is an excellent book and very well written, Owen did read it all with me, but overall it has not helped him to accept Ryan’s differbility. He resents too much the disruption it has caused all of us over the years.

On Tuesday July 1st I received the following email forwarded to me by my father in law from his partner. My father in law had sent her a link to our blog as she had not yet seen it. This is what she sent to him in reply:

My heart bleeds for Sarah, Duncan, and my darling Ryan, what a tragedy for the family, it puts so much pressure on daily living,

I must say Duncan is a wonderful father, he is so calm and loving to his boys. Poor Sarah, finds dealing with Ryan's medical problems very stressful, as all mothers do.

Ryan is a very lucky lad having such wonderful parents, (unfortunately Ryan doesn't realise how lucky he is) because I know other families in this situation (the husband just walks away from it), leaving a single mother to cope with all this stress.

You should be so proud of your son, he is one on a million, coping with his own health issues, then all this traumatic stress on top of it wish we could do something to help.

Now this truly touched me as I am sure you will understand and it took me a while to process and formulate a suitable response a copy of which now follows that I believe perfectly sums up exactly what I wanted to say about Owen all along.

Thank you for sharing your emails with me it is truly comforting to know we have support from literally all around the globe.  There is honestly no need to feel sorry or heart-broken for us.  We know no different and have it relatively easy compared to some. 

The one person I do feel for however, is Owen. He has missed out on so much because we have had to focus our attention on Ryan. I know that he resents Ryan's Autism and struggles more than any of us to make sense or understand it. He has had to witness meltdowns and be laughed at in school because his brother is a 'freak'. Yes that word has been used many times along with regular occurrences of 'Retard' which has to be one of the most hateful, spiteful and down-right narrow-minded of all bullying words possible. 

I know that Owen doesn't believe us when we tell him how proud we are of him. His academic achievements continue to astound us and he has been passionately playing football at a serious level since he was four years old. Owen has been playing for 11 years now and shows dedication and commitment beyond anything we could have ever dreamed of. He is loving, caring, well mannered and doesn't believe in any form of discrimination, racism, homophobia etc at all, and has in fact been involved in confrontations in school where he has intervened and stood up for people facing these criticisms. 

I suppose, partly, he doesn't believe us because words can't really describe how proud we are of him.

Both of my sons are completely amazing in their own completely unique ways. What more could I really and truly ask for?

Fair isn't everyone getting the same.