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Myths and Misconceptions

Myths and Miscnceptions, Autism,

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world. ~ Nelson Mandela.

The aim of our blog is to educate and help just one person to support their child better. We hope to change perceptions of autism and living with an invisible challenge; but with so many myths and misconceptions out there it really is a 1 step forward, 2 steps back process, although that is half the fun of constantly challenging ourselves to find new ways of getting our message across.
Contrary to popular belief many autistic children do make eye contact; it just may be less or different from a non-autistic child. Many children with autism can develop good functional language and others can develop some type of communication skills such as sign language or use of pictures.  Children do not ‘outgrow’ autism but symptoms may lessen as the child develops strategies to cope.


One of the most devastating myths about autistic children is that they cannot show affection. While sensory stimulation is processed differently in some children with Autism they can and do give affection, but it may require patience on a parent’s part to accept and give love on the child’s terms. 
The above extract is taken from an Autism Spectrum Disorders Fact Sheet distributed by the Centre for Developmental Disability Health, and this is very much the case with Ryan.  It is only in the last 2 years that he has started to give me hugs, but even now they have to be on his terms and initiated by him.  He is an adult now and I still live for the day I get a kiss. 

Sensory Issues

He has a number of sensory issues but with the exceptional support, he has received in secondary school and from my unending drive to support and offer him extensive therapy he has made astounding progress in his ability to cope and deal with being autistic.

To the point where his symptoms have lessened so much some people who meet him for the first time are actually surprised to discover his diagnosis. Don't get me wrong every now and then he has to throw us a curveball just to keep us on our toes and remind us just how much effort he has to put into appearing to function 'typically'.

Different Perspective

So what have we done to get to this point other than work on crushing each myth as we encounter it?

  • Wore wellies permanently for a time (yes even in summer) while we worked on getting him to wear shoes. Wellies are ‘roomy’ whereas shoes were too constricting for him. He still to this day does not like trainers, he finds them far too tight.
  • Wore bright orange industrial-strength ear defenders for a time or at least took them everywhere with us so he had the option of putting them on if he became unable to cope (if they went on that was a visual clue to change the environment or risk a meltdown). 
  • Took sunglasses out with us and also to school. They were very accommodating because he doesn’t cope well with the fluorescent strip lights in school.
  • Kinaesthetic toys like stress balls and Stabilo writing pens.
  • Good choice / Bad choice cards and major use of social stories by Carol Gray.
  • Egg timers that show visual count-down to needing to do something with buzz at the required time. Worked really well for Ryan.
  • Autism alert card that he carries with him to show people.
  • Invested in a locator devise as he had a major tendency for bolting. Not cheap, but who puts a value on child safety. Well worth the money, we certainly got our monies worth on several occasions.
  • The school have included him in social skills classes and Circle of Friends support groups.
  • Intensive Speech and Language Therapy. I particularly like Black Sheep Press resources such as Speech Bubbles program.  
  • SPELL framework: Structure; Positive (approaches); Empathy; Low arousal; Links (between all components and aspects of your child’s life).
  • Make use of & encourage participation in clubs and groups both in school and out: 5x60, lunchtime teacher-led, cubs/scouts etc.
  • Engage in and encourage the child’s interests. Ryan loves 3 things in his life other than animals. Lego, PC gaming and Photography.


One day while on our journey home from school Ryan said the following to me in the car, once more crushing a few misconceptions:  I think I am learning about emotions mum. We were playing truth or dare at lunchtime and I could see one of the boys getting upset. He looked like he was going to cry so I told the others to stop the game and we went to do something else instead. I told him how proud I was and explained how he is learning social clues and non-verbal communication skills. He added: Yes, I now know what a happy face, angry face, sad face and funny face looks like now. I think I am finally understanding them.

Autism Myths and misconceptions,


  1. Viewed the Lego work and realised that the long term future is probably in the Arts or Creative field. There is a piece of software called Painter - I have version 10 - that converts photos to what look like paintings. It might trigger an interest that stretches his photography interests to something more than 'pretty pictures'.

    1. Thank you for your comment, I will pass this onto Ryan.

  2. It’s my theory that wealthy children have successful parentages who push their children towards achievement and have little interruptions. Professional custom dissertation help online also they have far more options to draw upon. Rich children don't have to have jobs like us normal kids did during high school and they don't worry about trouble and interruptions that poor children have. Of course, there are dumb rich kids and smart poor kids but the typecasts due tend to hold true.


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